A Singaporean blogger (let’s just call her Z, instead of naming her since she’s not the main point and lest getting the wrong attention), allegedly became the 3rd party of a soon-to-be married couple, where the groom-to-be called off the marriage in the midst of the preparation.With the two disappearing in their act, some netizens have turned to Z’s close friends from the traces from her blog.
The distraught ex then took to Facebook to share her story. It blew out of proportion and the media published the story in the newspapers.
There were evidence pointing towards Z wrecking multiple relationships including this, and both the heartbreaker and her has yet to come up with their side of the story.
Just as a saying goes, “A friend in need is a friend indeed”.
- Friend sticks by you (out of loyalty, or blindly)
- Friend leaves you (for a while/ for good)
- Friend maintains a neutral stand (while sticking to you/ floating around)
A friend of hers has jumped in, writing a blog post about Z’s
virtues, while another expressed keeping Z as she had been a good buddy.
What do you think of this? Is a friend in need a friend indeed? How about in such severe cases?
(We don’t know which case they fall into, after all, the value of their friendship can’t be estimated by outsiders)
What do you think of this? Is a friend in need a friend indeed? How about in such severe cases?
I’ve been through all three situations, and and truth to be told, I
thought people in the 1st case had no good sense of judgement –
concluding things out of loyalty or based on one side of the story.
Because of that I definitely wouldn’t count as “the perfect friend”, since I would maintain a neutral stand till I get the big picture, or seeing solid evidences against either party.
Don’t just sit on the fence either, thinking of being seen as a good guy and not offending anyone. I mean you can stick by your friend while not being too unfriendly to another person, right? Just don’t be overly chummy.
Then again, it’s also exasperating knowing that you’re not in the wrong, yet not gaining your friend’s utmost trust and support.
Because of that I definitely wouldn’t count as “the perfect friend”, since I would maintain a neutral stand till I get the big picture, or seeing solid evidences against either party.
Don’t just sit on the fence either, thinking of being seen as a good guy and not offending anyone. I mean you can stick by your friend while not being too unfriendly to another person, right? Just don’t be overly chummy.
The most horrible of all would probably be leaving a friend for an
issue you are not involved in, though the ones at fault should be
prepared for such situations.
Well people usually don’t talk about or admit to their mistakes, so
nobody would probably get the entire truth other than the parties
involved.
I guess a friend in need should be one who is there for you, yet being able to differentiate the right from the wrong and leads you to the correct path (sounds to preachy haha
) after all that happened.
What do you think, or what would you do in such situations? Would you rather have a (maybe, blindly) loyal friend or one who maintains a neutral stand?
Take in mind the severity of the issue and the value of the friendship too.
I guess a friend in need should be one who is there for you, yet being able to differentiate the right from the wrong and leads you to the correct path (sounds to preachy haha
What do you think, or what would you do in such situations? Would you rather have a (maybe, blindly) loyal friend or one who maintains a neutral stand?
Take in mind the severity of the issue and the value of the friendship too.